Searching for a guru for self realization is meaningless. Journey of spirituality toward self realization is always covered all alone. Journey of self realization is an inward journey towards the spirit, soul atman existing in our heart. This journey is covered indulging in contemplation (chintan) all the time. No external guru or spiritual master can ever help us in the matter.
Spirituality can never be taught, the most a spiritual master could do was clarify our queries. It is always the seeker who has to cover the spiritual journey independently. It has rightly been said, as many human beings as many different paths to God Almighty can there be.
Instead of searching for a guru who can help us realize self we must initially master delicate art of contemplation (chintan). Thereafter we can indulge in vast paraphernalia of literature available in the open market relating to Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa and Maharshi Ramana.
In the last about 150 years amongst 7 billion people existing world over only Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa and Maharshi Ramana finally succeeded in reaching stage of self realization, god realization. In my spiritual pursuit of life I almost duplicated path taken by Maharshi Ramana.
In the field of spirituality even if a self realized soul was available, would he be able to accept us as a student. The possibility is nil. The reason is none can teach spirituality, one can only clarify queries! In a spiritual journey 100% effort is to be made by us, which we normally failed to do.
Finding grapes are sour; most people turn to religious practices (rituals) that carried no meaning on path of pure spirituality. Indulging in religion none ever reaches god, state of self realization.
If we cannot indulge in spirituality then why indulge in religion at all. It was never necessitated. We must live life like JRD Tata, the most respected personality of India, a karma Yogi par excellence. Even though JRD Tata knew nothing about Bhagavad Gita, he unknowingly practiced Bhagavad Gita every second of life.
JRD believed in concept of trusteeship and never called the entire Tata Empire his own. JRD Tata always considered himself a caretaker, taking care of things that all the time belonged to God Almighty. For JRD Tata welfare of mankind, his company, the employees was above all.